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It doesn't matter how long you spend planning it or the number of people who assist you -- there is always a change that "Murphy" will visit your wedding and maybe even bring friends. While you may not be in control of everything, there are some things you can do to prevent problems from occurring and minimize those problems that do.

Make realistic plans to begin with. Don't create undue stress and complications by planning an event that is out of your financial means, the time available or who you are.

Be organized and disciplined. Stick to your plans and stay focused. You will eliminate wheel spinning, indecision and wasted energy.

Pay attention to details. You can prevent big problems later if you pay attention to the small print now. As the experts say, "The devil is in the details".

Stay positive. Remember why you are getting married in the first place. When the wedding preparations seem to take on a life of their own and you find yourself wondering if it is all worth it, remember why you are doing it: you are celebrating the union of your two lives. That's a big thing and worth a little chaos.

Make decisions. Don't dither. Trust your gut instinct.

And if early decisions don't work out, make changes. Stay flexible and be ready to detour if needed. How you view road bumps has a lot to do with how you handle them. Be prepared to either go around them or skim over the top of them.

Be prepared for some things to veer off plan. Anticipate them and have alternatives at the ready.